I Spent Years in the Circuit Scene. Here’s Why I’m Leaving

Meng, one of the two hosts, explains why he has been pulling back from the circuit party scene after years of participation. Speaking with his co-host Andrew, he describes persistent anxiety, emotional difficulty navigating past connections at these events, and health concerns that prompted deeper reflection. The conversation explores whether leaving the scene is the right decision or whether Meng's underlying emotional patterns would follow him regardless of the environment. Andrew offers a different perspective throughout, while Meng arrives at a tentative personal resolution by the end.

• ·Meng has been seriously ill for two months, which gave him time to reflect on his lifestyle and priorities.
• ·He has developed a growing fear around getting sick again, including concern about recurring inflammation and repeated STI/STD experiences after sexual encounters.
• ·He says he has mentioned losing interest in circuit parties to Andrew many times before, though he has said it half-jokingly because he still wants to spend time with friends who attend.
• ·He describes a personal tendency to project a strong, unbothered persona and brush off his emotions, which he says is not serving him well long-term.
• ·At circuit parties, he says he struggles to navigate his feelings when he has had prior emotional connections with other attendees who may not reciprocate those feelings.
• ·He says the circuit party environment, where casual encounters are the norm, is difficult for him because he experiences genuine sadness when previous connections are not sustained.
• ·He describes ongoing anxiety about how his interactions with one person are perceived by another person he has feelings for at the same event.
• ·He acknowledges he has a strong desire for attention and connection, which he says makes the circuit party setting emotionally complicated for him.
• ·He says he does not consider circuit parties shallow as a concept, but concludes they are simply not the right fit for him personally.
• ·Andrew's perspective is that Meng arrives at circuit parties with emotional expectations that do not match the culture of the events, which produces recurring disappointment.
• ·Andrew argues that avoiding circuit parties would not address the underlying emotional patterns, which could surface in other contexts.
• ·Andrew gives examples of couples who met at circuit parties to illustrate that meaningful connections can form there, and suggests Meng's approach rather than the environment may be the variable.
• ·Andrew describes observing a mismatch at a recent White Party between Meng's outward behavior and what Andrew believes Meng actually felt.
• ·Andrew suggests that strangers who do not know Meng well may perceive him as cold, aloof, or disinterested because he puts up an emotional wall.
• ·Meng agrees he tends to disappear or shut down when he is hurt rather than staying present and processing the experience.
• ·Meng says he has been participating in the circuit scene for close to ten years and still cannot brush off the emotional impact, which he uses as evidence that the environment may not suit him.
• ·Andrew frames Meng's stated desire to leave as similar to someone swearing off relationships after a breakup, and encourages him to take a break and recalibrate rather than close the door entirely.
• ·Andrew's suggested goal for Meng is to try facing emotionally uncomfortable situations without the protective wall, in circuit-related settings or others, as a longer-term practice.
• ·Meng states he is tired of performing indifference and describes himself as a very emotional person who hides that from others.
• ·Meng has already purchased circuit party tickets to Okinawa and says he intends to try attending more authentically rather than behind a defensive persona.
• ·Meng identifies breaking down his emotional walls as a possible personal mission for the year ahead.

Meng, recently ill and reflective, tells Andrew he wants to stop attending circuit parties after nearly ten years of anxiety, emotional attachment, and recurring disappointment in that environment. Andrew spends most of the conversation offering reframes — you're avoiding the problem, you should match your expectations to the space, others navigate it fine — rather than accepting Meng's stated conclusion. The video ends with Meng softening into 'maybe I'll try it differently' while revealing he has already bought tickets to a circuit event in Okinawa.

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[0:00] the reason why. Let me just be very vulnerable. And at this point, circle party just gave me so much anxiety [0:06] Even if they've worked all year to get a hot body or something like that [0:10] Sometimes it's not enough. Sometimes they're still not invited [0:13] Avoiding it solves it. Yes! But the true problem lies deeper

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