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20 minutes of gaslighting my friend into staying in the party boy scene
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20 minutes of gaslighting my friend into staying in the party boy scene
Meng, you're in the majority. The percentage of the gay population that participates in circuit is miniscule. There is a whole world of gay men beyond party culture and bathhouses. Men that feel exactly the same as you and choose to not participate. Follow your instinct, friend.
Meng, stick with your genuine feelings, look after your own self. You are a treasure.
Meng, don’t listen to Andrew. He is looking at it from the point of view that he doesn’t get as affected as you. You are outgrowing the lifestyle and he has not. He also doesn’t want to lose his party-buddy. You are a person who has his feelings very much close to his heart. Andr…
Andrew loves Meng, but this is 22 minutes of him wanting Meng to hear him, when it should have been more about listening to Meng. It felt like the conversation went nowhere
This feels like Andrew is trying to convince Meng that these circuit parties are good for him. And Meng is just screaming that he doesn't want to go. If it makes you feel bad, DONT GO! It's not a character fault to not enjoy them. Put your energy into something else. Put you…
We were oversold the idea that gay/queer life had to look like one endless party. I've been Grindr-free for I don't know how many years, and sober-ish for a couple now (it's a process), and it turns out that actually you can find community in all kinds of ways: with friends from …
I think Andrew isn’t really listening.
This is called "growing up" and taking care of the other parts of your life. Dating, sex, and having fun happens in other spaces
I don't know guys. As a gay man, whenever I see footage of circuit parties they just look like too much.
Meng I think one of the most important things in life is accepting that you need to say goodbye to some stages in your life - no matter how integral it might have been to your life experience. Especially if it is a toxic trait and acknowledging you can become a better person. Man…
Your mental health is the most important, we should never have to push ourselves to do things that don't feel right. Take care Meng!
Couldn't finish this. Feels like Meng keeps getting dismissed.
I really enjoyed this video. I’m not sure why people are criticizing Andrew. Sure, Meng knows what’s best for him, and sure, maybe Andrew doesn’t want his friend to stop going to these events with him, but he did a great job at offering another perspective. We don’t know what goe…
Hello Meng! I am sorry you are struggling. Maybe it is a good idea to pull back from the parties, since you have mixed feelings about them. Great big hugs and I always respond to you ebullient and lovable personality! There is someone special out there for you! And thank you…
Yes! Mengs back. And I'm totally here for anything he wants to discuss 😂
I loved clubbing from 18-30… and then something changed. A night out felt empty and sad and uncomfortable. It took me a while to work out what was going on. I’d outgrown that phase and once I accepted that, I used that time and energy and put it into things that made me happy. Go…
If you don't want to do it then don't do it 💪. Some of us have hated circuit parties all along lol.
I love how open and vulnerable both of you are with each other and with your audience. I also love how you give one another freely of your time and experience and insights. Meng, you don’t know where love and connections are going to find you so be open to them always regardless…
Love u guys but Andrews advice is terrible. Meng is expressing that he tried to fit into a scene and community that he never felt comfortable to and would prefer to be his authentic self and embrace his natural feelings and Andrew is invalidating his statements by telling him he'…
Andrew explained so well how caring more about others than yourself is not just a character trait but part of the work.
It's so saddening and scary that the gay scene in 2026 has culminated in parties, substance abuse, physical worship and desire (gym bodies, etc..), s*x (all kinds), polyamory, STDs, bathhouses, instead of family, stable relationships and profound individuality...is this the gay c…
Man it was hard to see Andrew more worried with the future of their channel than with Mengs well being
Yes, Meng! Around the 17min mark you arrived to a great idea. Take a break. Do other gay/queer activities (sports club, gaming group, book club, anime group, or activist). See how you feel. You can always catch up with Andrew at a bar or for coffee... or YouTubing😉 I promise, th…
Meng’s vulnerability is refreshing!
Andrew thinks since he goes to therapy that he’s a therapist. 😂
I commend this, but also this is very predictable. Circuit is NOT about "community" etc etc, its about all the most shallow things - drugs, sex and appearace based hierarchy.
Shout out to Meng , Just wanna let you know being emotional is a beautiful thing and and its also the most simple way to be yourself. You dont have to change anything in you but strengthening your coping and letting it go skill . Way to go girl!❤
This sounds like a hollow and lonely way to live. Paired partnership is fulfilling.
So heartening to see you guys speak so openly and honestly with each other. Andrew, you are an awesome friend to Meng; Meng, you are the same to Andrew. You guys are so blessed to have each other 😇😇
At the circuit party you're going to confuse lust for love. It's not the correct place to go looking for a lifetime connection. Meanwhile, Andrew and Meng are not a couple, but they might as well, because love is about understanding, respect, and caring for one another. That's th…
As always guys another great video from you, I really enjoyed the topic of today video. Even though I never done circuit party I would love to do at some point. Also keep up the amazing content and work and as always can’t wait for the next video.
Meng, simplify your life… take responsibility! Don’t ask for more choices, just choose nicer things.
Meng you have such a big heart and I hope you can see from all these comments that it's a good thing (and honestly very attractive to show it!). The big emotions that big heart brings can be scary and painful with rejection or hurt, but you're a strong person who has survived it…
Meng, Thank you for opening up about your feelings It's very therapeutic to give them voice. I think it's important to have trusted people you can confide in and help process what you are going thru. Our priorities change as we get older. You are a strong man and I'm sure you wi…
Maybe casual hock up culture is not for you you seem like a relationship kind of guy
I agree with Andrew, but also feel for Meng. Connections made at circuit parties, you shouldn't expect or treat them like true love connections or dating connections, unless they continue past that circuit party. If you find a circuit equivalent of a ravebae, if you don't talk to…
If it threatens your health either physically or mentally then it’s a hard pass🚩
Meng, remember that your feelings go with you wherever you go. The space is not the problem if there is one at all. Maybe not going to circuit parties may help you clear your mind to see how you would like to deal with this feeling. And create enough mental space to elaborate on …
I was in the scene for 6 years partying every year. When work relocate me to another place party friends feel so distant and superficial. When I am back to the city after 6 years, I realize my preference have shifted. Now I enjoy Netflix weekend more than partying. But do go to e…