Can't wait to show off my biceps in april hope to find yall!
Why: Fan planning a real-life visit — a personal reply locks in the meet-up and creates community excitement
Draft replyApril in Nichome?? Come find us — we'll be the ones convincing each other to finally go to the gym 😄
As a gay man living in Japan and works out, I do it for health and for the aesthetic. Yes, it feels good to be seen and to be praised. God forbid someone be self-aware but also not be self-absorbed 🙄 Why not just chill and let people have hobbies lol. Y'all have so much time on your hands judging others. One thing I realized after getting into training is the amount of effort you need to stay muscular is insane and literally exhausting. Hauling your ass after 3 hours of overtime, then lift 100kg 30 times in 10 minutes, then repeat that for the course of 1.5~2 hours every other day requires some serious dedication. That dedication can be called as passion, and is something I find admirable.
Why: Sharp, fair pushback from a gay man actually living this in Japan — a public reply shows you're listening and not just moralising from the outside
Draft replyYou're completely right and honestly this is the nuance we didn't say clearly enough in the video — there's a massive difference between judging people who work out and questioning the pressure to do so. The dedication you're describing is genuinely admirable, and we have nothing but respect for it.
Unrelated but I feel like Japan's soft power is waning. With Sanae Takaichi, gaijin being blamed for everything and being openly discriminated, and even mangas like Drama Queen are saying they don't want foreigners. It makes me feel silly wanting something that explicitly rejects me and others. Just wondering if either of you noticed anything different or has it always been like that?
Why: Substantive unanswered question from a thoughtful viewer — touches something real that we'd actually have opinions on as people living here
Draft replyThis is something we genuinely think about. There's definitely a tension between the Japan we love and certain currents pulling the other way right now — might be worth a full video because there's a lot to say and we don't want to do it in two sentences.
cronicasdelamancha5696 · high↗ view I love the learning that happened by the end! I often cringe at the gays who just assume fit/twink/twonk is the only way to be in the community! It's a toxic bubble and i'm happy you notice this. Thanks for the great journalism! Cya when I go to japan next!
Why: Devoted viewer planning a Japan trip — easy personal reply that builds loyalty and community
Draft replyWhen you come, let us know! And yeah — that moment at the end felt like a real realisation for us too, not just something we said for the camera.
fikriarahman2840 · medium↗ view I think every gay should go to the gym minimum twice. Once for register your membership. The second time to cancel your membership. Thats it!
Why: 31 likes, genuinely funny — a reply here gets visibility in the thread and rewards the humour
Draft replyThis is the most honest gym journey I've ever read and I will not be taking questions.
iliveinendlessjourneys · medium↗ view Today is my birthday Meng: nothing 20 video's why I am single?
Why: 18 likes, funny callback to the video's most charming moment — easy win to acknowledge it
Draft replyIn our defence he said it so quietly!! But also... happy birthday 🎉 we're rooting for you out there
andrewholmes2243 · medium↗ view "Us folks who actually have good hobbies like History, Museum… We have that." I'm obsessed.
Why: 26 likes, pinpoints the best line of the video — replying amplifies the moment and rewards close watchers
Draft replyDon literally delivered that line with such dignity. He's an icon and I will be quoting him for the rest of my life.
In western countries I believe that gay men were responsible for popularising gym culture as a whole towards the end of the 80s. In the early 80s, hardly anyone had a gym membership but with the advent of HIV affecting the community, gay guys didn't want to appear frail or sickly. This is my perspective in the Sydney scene. So all these gay run gyms were opening up and eventually the str8 community followed suit because they also wanted to look good at our clubs and dance parties. Some may see this as simplistic or untrue but I believe it was a major factor for the gym industry.
Why: Adds real historical depth to the video's central question — worth acknowledging publicly to reward substantive comments
Draft replyThis is genuinely fascinating context we didn't have — the idea that gym culture has these roots in the AIDS crisis completely reframes the whole conversation. Thank you for adding this.
Psychologically you'd imagine it'd be the opposite where, if you are rejected in spite of your traditionally aesthetically, pleasing muscular body, then actually it's even worse because it really is about your who you are. That's being rejected.
Why: Makes an interesting counter to the psychology point in the intro — worth pulling into the public thread
Draft replyThis is actually such a sharp point and it completely flips the logic from the article we mentioned — rejection with a good body might sting even more because there's nowhere left to hide. Ouch.
Also the places you are going to regardless of your body type has an effect. You aren't likely (although it's not impossible) to find a relationship by going to bathhouses,saunas and blowjob bars! As they are just aimed at no strings attached hook-ups. I think areas outside of Shinjuku are less judgemental to bodies. Even more so the further away from central Tokyo, such as Sapporo for example where the gay scene is much smaller.
Why: Adds a useful geographic/venue dimension to the conversation — quick acknowledgement rewards the local knowledge
Draft replyThe venue point is so real — we probably should have asked people where they were meeting people, not just whether they work out. And now we want to do a Sapporo episode...
It seems like most people want to believe that the reason they are not dating someone or getting any attention is because they are not as buff as other guys or working out enough, and that is a false illusion. I learned a long time ago not to judge my insides by someone else's outside.
Why: Thoughtful, directly on-theme — surfaces a perspective the video touched on but didn't quite land
Draft reply"Don't judge my insides by someone else's outside" — this is genuinely great and we wish we'd said it in the video.
People care far too much about appearances and what others think of them. You shouldn't work out to impress anyone, do it because you want to stay healthy as you get older.
Why: 27 likes, aligns with the video's conclusion — quick acknowledgement rewards the high-engagement comment
Draft replyYour grandparents living to nearly 100 just from moving every day is the most compelling argument for staying active we've ever heard — no gym required.