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Whether you like it or not, any relationship, monogamous or open, requires compromise. it’s rather arrogant to assume that relationships are smooth sailing
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Whether you like it or not, any relationship, monogamous or open, requires compromise. it’s rather arrogant to assume that relationships are smooth sailing
I found love, real love twice. First time I was early 30s and we were together (married) for 27 years and he passed away. It was really fast and an absolute shock to my world. My world turned grey and sounds and colors were all muted. Move forward 5 years and I found someone who…
So many red flags coming out from Andrew and Meng.
Ok I think Meng is so spot on here - yes relationships aren't perfect and neither are the people in them - we are trained to "not settle" etc but its not settling - its compromising. And as for not doing things you don't want, you'll find out that actually doing them WITH your pa…
This could be a roundtable once a month with the larger friend group. It was honest and open. Beautiful!!
My humble take on this: sometimes you want to eat a lovely, sweet dessert. You can pick up a perfect one ready-made. Love (+ relationship) aren't store-bought dessert 😂. You gotta make your own! Mostly from scratch, it takes some time and it takes some work. And you team up with…
No matter what gender you're attracted to, one thing remains clear: nowadays, many people aren’t willing to truly invest time and energy into relationships. Monogamy doesn’t seem to hold the same value for a lot of younger people anymore. Personally, I’m not a fan of open relatio…
Look at Meng entering his life coach era. He clocked Andrew all the way down. It just goes to show how deep the friendship is and how much they care for one another. You guys are two of my favorite gays.
What Andrew said about his boyfriend inviting him to do things he didn’t want to do and he didn’t want to bring it up was interesting to me. I feel like if you actually enjoy the company of someone, you wouldn’t mind going to do something they invite you to that isn’t your cup of…
Part of this is the use of therapy speak and social media, IMO. Solipsism comes to mind too. Everyone is in a TV show where they are the main character. I had an ex called me narcissistic and megalomaniac because I volunteer a lot (and have for decades with a few orgs), but a mo…
I’ve been in quite a few relationships, so I’ve had plenty of chances to figure out what really makes them work. Here’s what I’ve learned: it’s all about friendship. If you find someone who likes you, and you like them back, that’s the starting point. Communication is key. You h…
Appreciate the honesty here but all tea you both come across as really solipsistic, and like you're in need of people to cater to your needs in a way you have no interest in reciprocating.
just need to differentiate what can be tolerated/compromised and what can't... interests, sleeping habits those are trivial. value and worldview are some of the things that really need to be compatible.. if you keep expecting someone who will magically fit in your 'perfect single…
This is a very interesting conversation which poses many questions. My husband and I have been together 43 years which are indeed filled with all kinds of circumstances and compromises. Ultimately being together as a couple has given us the strength to thrive and be happy. It mig…
I like the honest, no fluff, genuine expression of how you two feel. Those calling 'red flags' and all don't even hear their own voice/s in their heads. I appreciate the raw chill banter. I haven't been with anyone since 2020 and it's peaceful and no headaches having to align sch…
Commitment means giving up on the potential. Feels like noone wants to give up anything.
Since everyone is asking, I think people don’t know what they want. I’m sure people would settle with way less than they demand but are too scared to act vulnerable and invest in a relationship. IMO most people want other people that don’t want them. Just learn to enjoy what you …
I think if you are prone to breaking off things when they are not perfect can indicate an avoidant attachment style.
I am thinking that the word I would use is 'self-sufficient', rather than 'independent'. For me, it is an admirable quality, one which both of you appear to have (granting that I have not met either of you personally, so I only know you through YouTube). I rejoice in my Single …
Ok so having finished watching this video. My point of view is that I agree with a lot o f what both of you said in that Andrew is correct that people "not turning up to love someone" but be the main character is very offputting - and what Meng said about essentially you do have…
The couple is not an end but a means to build a family (have children) and/or support each other financially, especially in old age. And love isn't a prerequisite to be in a couple, as historically people usually didn't marry the people they were in love with. Love, the non-pass…
Idk, as long as I hear you guys talking about "I'm the price" and similar mechanics when relationships are supposed to be the topic it just sounds so immature to me. Is it the superficiality of the gays nowadays? Sad. How old are you again?
As always I've enjoyed your chat. I have been in a relationship for 16 years and will try and impart some words of wisdom although we are all different and what works for one couple may not work for others. Firstly I should say that we spend most of the time apart from each othe…
This video and the comments below helped me realize that it's more about building a life with your partner rather than finding that "perfect" relationship with no hardships. I feel the same with Meng in that I perceive my friends/family in relationships as more "flawed" than the …
Sometimes in relationships there's a gardener and a rose.
I 100% agree with you both on all your points. Good work! I stopped trying to ask myself "do i LOVE this person" and instead I ask myself "can I build A LIFE with this person/people"? Not just romantic, but platonic relationships too. Can you do more vids like this? Love the…
I feel you were right about GAMAN though 😂 我慢足りない 🙈 Well, more like “patience”. People aren’t patient. They want life to be like TikTok, immediate pleasure & rewards. You need patience to adapt to the other person. The first two years living with my partner we slept in separate…
Havent finished the video yet... BUT: Presenting their everywhere sold out Labubu like that..shameless :P
First video response, I think you're confusing "perfection" with "emotionally mature communication." Yes, couple will fight. But how they handle it is what matters. Does one person always roll over to appease the other? Is one person afraid that saying they don't like something w…
For the record, I love your Party videos and Hooking up stories
When you mentioned about people being in relationships they have more flaws, well thats a silly statement because a couple accept each other with their flaws. We all have flaws. The issue with hook up gays is they are after the next best thing and they cant see the beautiful rela…
Everyone has a red flag for someone else. You have to decide which red flags you can work with. My partner likes to talk about a problem when it arises. I hated it and wanted to just ignore things. Now, I'm addressing things with family and friends vs letting things fester. Relat…
On this subject matter, my advise to u both is Never give up on love. Most of the time, to love n be love by others help u be a better person. Single by choice … could change when the other choice is better … sending my love to u both from Singapore! Finally see u Meng in Pattaya…
Don’t lose hope guys. I had my first bf when I was 40 and we’re still together. It’s not been easy but we put up with each other’s shit.
The biceps are popping ✨thanks for the gun show 😂
It is so rare that I agree with Ming, but I totally agree with everything he said in this video. He has hit the nail on the head. One of my friends even told me a few years ago that he couldn't picture me in relationship because I am "too independent" and that I didn't need a man…
7:34 The Labubu in the back. Oh, she’s everywhere omg
Well done guys 🎉 it’s a lot to expose your deepest feelings even just between friends let alone online. Wanted to give you both a huge hug 🐻
Oh, this is going to be catharsis for so many of us. (Also, I never complained about the parties. Atleast someone is having fun)
imagine until what age you think you'll live. and then imagine yourself living that last five years of your life living alone.