As someone who has lived in the NYC metro area a good portion of their life, NYC in vacation mode vs. living there full-time is so completely different. Mentally, it can be a very draining place and hard to relax. Financially, it can be hard to save as along with housing, anytime…
I think that Portland seems like a good fit. There is an interesting history of those of Chinese, Korean and Japanese descent in Portland, which could be worth exploring and making connections. I think it is tempting when life throws a curveball to consider completely uprooting a…
Hopefully you’ll read this. As a Californian who moved to nyc for 3 years but came back. It’s a city that is nice to visit, but the pace and grind and cost of nyc making living there very much a treat race. For ref, I was making 120k but still barely getting by.
I like Portland…
If your long term goal is to buy a home in CA, I think you should keep your eye on the prize and consider factors that will contribute to attaining your goal. Affordability is definitely a consideration in determining how quickly you will accumulate enough for a down payment. W…
What if you stayed in an airbnb or sublet for a few months in nyc. You could get that change you’re craving without making a huge cross country move and missing your family too much. Then get a rental Portland or rent in NYC if you really fall in love ??
you're so young. whatever choice you make will come with its own unique experiences, none of which (even at their worst) have the capacity to ruin your entire life. i'm excited for you and i hope that, regardless of whichever place you and Chris move to for however many years, th…
I was born in NY, raised in FL, but made a big move to Chicago, IL when I decided I needed to spread my wings. I visited 5-6 times over the span of 3 years before I settled on Chicago. I actually think y’all would enjoy Chicago… Very diverse, has seasons, has all the public trans…
i think now is the best time to experience other cities! before you’re tied down by a mortgage you should experiment if you’re curious. it may be a lot of effort but it’s better to experience it instead of forever wonder about it
I grew up in Portland but have been living in Pasadena/Highland Park for the past 12 years. During the pandemic, my husband and I tried to move back to Portland for a couple of years because we missed the nature, outdoor lifestyle, cost of living, and overall vibes. But as POCs, …
Nyc can be nice and all but as someone who lives in toronto, you would have a bigger limitation on what you'd be able to plant in your backyard/garden because of the harsher winters. You'd have to adapt to their native plants, but if you're up to leaving behind outdoor palms, tre…
Winters in places like NYC are no joke and get old really quickly. You’re a grounded fellow, make sure you’re being honest with yourself and not romanticizing it.
brooklyner here! I don't typically comment on videos but I wanted to give my input here as I'm seeing a lot of people commenting against nyc and want to make sure you're also seeing some nyc love! :) as you're only looking to (possibly) move to a new city for the short-term, I fe…
I must say….yes try NYC. When you’re young you should go for the BIG City life, you will always have the opportunity to move back west. I know one thing if you don’t do it now (next two years) you will not. TAKE A CHANCE. All the Best!
We would be so sad to loose you in Altadena, but Portland looks amazing! If you find yourself wanting to explore options in Altadena please reach out. There are many groups offering assistance to renters and options for renters who were fire effected to become homeowners. Just FY…
I get the appeal to live in NYC, it's a dream for many. But considering your end goal is to buy a house eventually in California, I don't think living in NYC is the smartest move. Mostly because it's so expensive! You'll end up spending more and saving less. Your place will most …
In regards to moving my partner and I were in a similar place last year. For reference I'm 25, female, and half Vietnamese and wanted to experience living outside of SoCal in a place with good diversity, access to public transit, and different climate than cali.
I'm now in a tow…
I grew up in la and moved to brooklyn at the end of 2024. I dont think i'd live here forever but its totally worth it for the seasons, walkability, the general energy, and the opportunity to experience east coast native plants. nyc is fun hell and la is boring paradise
Guys....
Point blank.!!!!
...DO NOT move to NYC without doing a real trial run first.°•!!
I’m still devastated about the loss of your Altadena home. That space was one of a kind, and I think a lot of us as followers felt that loss just as deeply. It mattered.
That said, you guys…
Hi Brooklyn baby here! Culturally there is no place like it! So many amazing communities and a strong plant culture here. I will say that I promise the winters are far less idyllic than they may seem to a west coaster, and the city can honestly be very draining on the nervous sys…
I moved to NYC after college and I am now in the phase of life where I am raising a child. I also grew up in a location without seasons. I have no regrets moving. It is expensive. The city feels like a lot sometimes but you can hop on a train easily and be surrounded by nature. I…
I'd say Portland, you can rent a nice house w/ a yard on the East Side for what y'all would pay in rent in LA or NY. Portland also has a great scene for gardening and interior decorating, and I could see y'all liking the Pace of Life there.
I just visited Portland with my boyfriend last month for similar reasons! We both grew up and have lived in SoCal our whole lives and wanted to try living somewhere with more nature, public transit, and affordability. The idea of seasons sounded amazing too! However we realized t…
Hey Benji, you should try the big city at least once in your life, you’ll regret not living that experience while you had the chance, there will be so many places and people to meet, it will boost your content as well. I’m enjoying London while I’m young knowing that at some poin…
Careful with the Pacific NW. The moss is caused by lots of dampness. Having lived in the Seattle area my whole life I've watched people get here and hate the damp days and be cold. You need to be prepared for 8-9 months of mostly rain/damp and 3 months of sun...
Benji your comment about not wanting to move too far from your parents is exactly why I live 2 miles from mine. I am first-generation too and I just cant imagine being too far. Thanks for the comment it was very relatable.